Let's talk about being a working mom.
This will have none of the nasty mom-shaming of whatever situation might be better.
Everyone's situation is exactly how it should be at that time in their life.
So, if you're a stay-at-home mom, you should be.
If you're a working mom who needs to go to the office five days a week, you should be.
If you're a working mom who works from the comforts of home, you should be.
I just want to talk about being a working mom, specifically being a working mom well into her career when kids came into the game.
If you're new here, mama, WELCOME!! I'm happy you're here. I'm happy to provide some camaraderie and maybe an outlet for you. I've got another blog post I've linked below - do me a favor - when you have a couple of minutes (haha, I know...) check it out and let me know what your thoughts are!
You've spent all these years working on your career and you're in a groove.
You put in your time, and then some, and with that comes a chance of advancement within the company.
This is great, you're thinking you're doing what you need to do, you feel good about working for this company.
If a family is in the cards, financially it will be manageable and since you have so much tenure with the company, they are bound to work with you on hours, if the situation should arise.
Then kids come into the picture and you think, it shouldn't be a problem.
People will ask you how you cope with your baby being in daycare all day and not being with them and but it actually doesn't phase you and you're not sure if that's normal.
That doesn't mean that you don't miss your child, it means that you've been so invested in this routine you've set yourself up in for the last few years, that you are seemingly able to turn the work/mom switch on and off.
You may check in with the daycare from time to time, but overall you know that the best person, other than yourself, is taking care of your child while you're at work.
Work gives you that real-world connection that you were so worried about losing when you talked to other moms.
You talk to adults all day, you perform your job to the best of your ability, just as you had before having kids, you fix problems, you feel useful.
You're a dedicated employee, and a dedicated mom, and you're pretty sure that everything you're feeling is what you should be feeling. Except that no one talks about how it actually feels so you're just going with it.
Here's the problem
When you've been so invested in work for so long and you have a family, no matter how much of a priority you say your family is, when you have to call off you feel guilty.
You shouldn't, and you know that, but you do.
And it bothers you that, while your kid is napping or eating lunch, or whatever, that you're thinking about work.
Maybe you're texting your team to make sure everything is okay, maybe you're following up on something you had committed to handling today.
Everyone tells you they've got it covered, but you're still worried.
But you know that, if you were at work, you would be checking in on whoever was watching your child asking if everything was okay and you'd feel guilty for that. Again, you shouldn't and you know that, but you do anyway.
Some moms can successfully handle the work/mom switch for their kids' entire childhood, and some moms decide it's too much and they go the stay at home route, and then some moms figure out how to make a work-at-home situation.
This is what it is to be a mom whose work life was the long time predecessor to her family life. There is no shame in it, it just is.
And to all the moms who are doing any of these, please know that you're doing exactly what you need to be doing at this moment in time.
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