When did everyone get so judgmental?
t seems like all the parenting blogs or lifestyle blogs have covered this, right?
I'm going to touch on it anyway because it's ridiculous.
I am not perfect by any means. But I do try to catch myself if I find myself side-eyeing someone or being judgmental.
And the point of writing this isn't to judge, but I am calling out those who are making other parents feel like garbage.
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How are we being judgmental?
Maybe the parent you're staring down, or giving the side-eye to, had a bit of a rough day for whatever reason.
Maybe they're just rushed and they've already told their child multiple times what the plan for the afternoon is and the child isn't listening.
I understand that some of these are features that you use to describe another in conversation, that's not what I'm talking about. I'm not talking about when you don't know a parent's name and you're describing him or her to someone.
I'm talking about making it obvious that you're looking disapprovingly at another parent.
Let me tell you something, they don't need your approval. They are parenting the exact way they should at that moment.
So whether they saw your stare or not, and more than likely they did, your opinion of their parenting skills doesn't me squat-all to them.
What means the most to them is raising self sufficient kids who understand how to be independent, but yet still understand that schedules and rules need to be followed.
If you are staring because you have some unresolved issues about getting yelled at when you were a kid, or your parent(s) embarrassing you, get some therapy and get over it.
If you are staring because you wish you you had the courage to do something different with your style, just do it, no one cares.
If you are staring because you recognize some of the other parent's qualities in yourself...how about a smile and nod or something to that effect...something that gives them a feeling of solidarity.
They're not looking for your approval by any means, but they're also not exactly itching to be the butt of jokes, the subject of conversations, or the the target of those daggers you just shot from your eyes. Just a look that says, "Hey, I've been there."
We are all in the same boat with parenting, at least we all should be.
We all, hopefully, want to raise well adjusted kids who are respectful of laws, but also know when to push boundaries.
Kids who can think for themselves, but also understand that the world runs on a schedule and therefore so should they.
Kids who grow up to know how to take care of themselves, who know there's a time for getting stuff done and a time for fun activities.
But we all have different ways of helping our kids learn about life. Just let the other parents do what they know is best for their kids, okay?
And just stop with the stares, the daggers, and the side-eye, okay?
Because one day you might be the parent who is judged and you really don't want to experience that feeling.
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