I've been tossing around ideas for my next blog post, well, since the last blog post.
There are so many ideas and experiences that I want to share and I'm trying to not be scattered in how I present my content.
I had actually started this post yesterday and debated on whether or not my presentation of it was awkward or just "off". But, after talking with a friend, this morning, who I haven't talked with in a while, I realized that this actually is an issue and we may as well talk about it.
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Let me start by saying that I've had several female managers in my career and once I became a manager, I worked alongside many female managers.
Most of them were not good. A few were tolerable. There are two who actually left a positive impression on me and they have actually become my closest and dearest friends.
I've also had several male managers in my career and only about half of them were good. So, I'm not preferential either way and I don't want anyone to think that I am biased.
What are some ideas people have about female managers?
Notice how many of these are contradictory to each other? Yeah...
I believe there are three things needed to be a successful female manager
1. Common sense
2. Self awareness
3. Emotional intelligence
Notice I didn't say anything about having a degree.
Degrees are helpful, don't get me wrong, but they don't make a manager.
More often than not they make someone very good at creating charts and graphs and spreadsheets.
Anyone can learn that. Not everyone has common sense, and it's not really something that's learned.
Not everyone has self-awareness, and those who don't likely don't want to learn about themselves or they think they're perfect so no improvement is needed.
Emotional intelligence...as much as some try to teach it, that is a rough one to learn...I believe that in order to learn emotional intelligence you have to have even an inkling of it already in you.
And all of those things that people think about female managers...they're all true...for someone. Not necessarily for all, but I'll bet that when you read some of those descriptions you had someone in mind. Maybe it was a former manager? Your current manager? Yourself?
Here are the types I've encountered
So, having this array of managers as "role models", and not all listed are in the order in which I experienced them, I had a bit of a rough time fine tuning what manager I was, once I took on that role.
I can tell you I was never the "no connection" manager. As much as I joke that I don't like people, I really am a people person.
I enjoy developing relationships with people. I enjoy getting to know what makes people tick.
But I haven't let work friendships interfere with having to make decisions, give appropriate corrections and/or criticisms to people, perform accurate performance appraisals.
I have been the moody manager, and that was before I really had a grasp on how food affects our bodies (I can give you more information on this, if you're interested).
So, once I got the moods under control, I became, with some work, the self-aware manager.
I was not - and am not – perfect by any means, but I had a connection with my team. I knew when there was something bothering them; I let them know we could talk if they wanted and let that be up to them. I would tell them when I was having a rough day; that I'd be available but had to close my door for a while.
Having this open communication, and that's really what it comes down to, is open communication, results in a happier and more productive team overall. It results in your team trusting you to guide them in the right direction. It results in a better work environment, one that your team and coworkers don't dread walking into every day. This is something we can only work on continually to ensure we are the best we can be for ourselves and for our teams.
Have you had any of these managers in your career? What kind of manager are you? Comment below and let me know!
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