New Year’s Resolutions
What was your first thought when you read that line?
Irritated that I even mentioned it, thinking that I’m here to perpetuate some kind of false standard for how to succeed in your resolutions?
Overwhelmed because you want to do so much in 2019 but you don’t know where to start?
Already defeated before the year has really started?
Mama, I’m here to tell you… New Year’s Resolutions are CRAP.
Period. End of Story.
Don’t make ‘em. Please, for your own sanity. For your own mental and emotional well being. For the mental and emotional well being of your kids, because they watch and hear everything you do and say. Don’t make any New Year’s Resolutions this year.
Before we go any further…
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Instead of making New Year’s Resolutions, I want you to set goals.
You may have just rolled your eyes because...well...what’s the difference, right?
The difference, mama, is fucking HUGE!!
New Year’s Resolutions
These are things we say on New Year’s Eve or New Year’s Day in an attempt to proclaim a new version of ourselves in the new year.
We make these “promises” to ourselves that we break by the time March rolls around. Seriously...more than 80% of New Year’s Resolutions have failed by March.
We go in making these resolutions thinking this year will be different but, at the same time, thinking that this year won’t be any different than any other and if it doesn’t get done then it’s no big deal...you’re busy, you’ve got other, more important things to take care of.
Any of these sound familiar?
Goals are more definitive. They’re measurable. They have some sort of value.
There’s a reason goals drive you. There’s motivation behind a goal, there’s incentive behind a goal, there’s logic and reason and planning behind a goal.
Let’s look at some goal examples…
Losing 20 pounds by the end of May. There are 21 weeks until the end of May. Do you know what that means? That means you only need to lose a pound a week...and there’s even some give in there for you to have an “oops” and recover from it. On average, when people really commit to weight loss, an average is 2 pounds per week...so, essentially you could achieve your 20 pound loss by the middle of March, and that’s with you not even starting anything until January 7th!
How excited would you be once you achieve your goal in half the time? How proud of yourself would you be? How much more confidence would you have?
FEEL THAT...FEEL THAT EXCITEMENT, THAT CONFIDENCE, THAT PRIDE
If you’re excited, if you have at least 1 goal in mind that would make 2019 your best year yet, comment below. Why? Because I'm offering to support you and your goals daily. No cost, no catch, just me in your email every day in January (longer if you choose) to help you feel that excitement, that confidence, that pride!
Not convinced yet? Let’s take another goal and break it down.
You want to save $30k by the end of 2019.
A year has 52 weeks. When you do the math, you would have to save roughly $577.00 a week to get to your goal.
Is this do-able?? Well, I’m figuring if you have this lofty of a goal financially then you make a pretty comfortable living right now.
How can you save $577.00 a week?
Do you and the hubs go out to lunch Monday through Friday? Can you cut it out? If you’re each spending $10/day on lunch that’s $100.00 a week right there.
Now, another $477.00.
Do you guys grab coffee a few times a week? Say you grab coffee three times a week, at $5 a cup. You don’t want to totally deprive yourself, because you enjoy your coffee, so maybe you cut down to once a week. That’s $20.00 a week you can save. It doesn’t seem like much, but after 52 weeks, that would be $1040.00 you hadn’t saved if you didn’t cut back a little.
Can either of you pull overtime? Not taking advantage of the company, of course, but if there’s an opportunity for either of you to bring in an extra $100 a week, why not take it?
That brings you to $357.00
Do you have a hobby that can be profitable? Or can you provide services such as house cleaning, dog walking, babysitting, etc to people in the community?
You could probably bring in, on the conservative side, $50.00 a week doing that.
So, now we’re down to $307.00. Can you sell any of your excess?
I don’t want to hear that you don’t have excess. My husband and I pride ourselves on not having a lot of shit...and we went through and cleaned stuff out a couple of weeks ago and, do you want to know what I said to him?
“For people who claim not to have a lot of shit, we sure do have a lot of shit.”
And he agreed.
If you go through, room by room, you could probably make another $50.00 a week on selling shit.
Can you cut down your cable bill or your cell phone bill? I’m not even saying cut the packages, but just call and tell them you’re going through bills and you feel you’re paying way too much and you were wondering if they could help you out.
Doing this has saved me $60/month on cable and $40/month on cell phone. That works out to another $25.00 a week.
Do you REALLY need to buy in bulk at Costco EVERY WEEK? Do an inventory of your pantry and freezer before you head out - right there can save you at least $40.00 a week.
If you’re like me, this one is hard because I’m always afraid I’m going to run out of something. But...so what if I do?? I live within 15 minutes of any store you can think of...one of us can make a quick run out after the kids go to bed.
So, now you’re down to “finding” $192.00 to save.
Can you be a little more critical of impulse buys at Target? Can you be a little more conscious of what’s in your Amazon cart? This will probably save you $50.00 a week.
Go through your bank statement and credit card statements...what subscriptions are you being charged for that you really don’t use, or prices that have gone up after your trial period.
Maybe you look into various network marketing opportunities and see what product, what company, you really believe in and that can start making you a few hundred a month.
Now, you probably rolled your eyes at that last suggestion, but I really think people have the network marketing/MLM space all wrong. Most of these people aren’t trying to be salesy or slimey...they’re trying to make a buck, yes...same concept as you going to work every day...but they’re also probably following some pretty strict directives on what they can and can’t say when pitching people. And some people are just so new at it that they don’t know any better.
So before you say no to an MLM, look at what’s out there. Because if there’s something out there that you REALLY believe in...I can guarantee you you can make up that extra money per month. You will be able to talk to people just by telling your story and without being salesy and slimey. You may even find a new passion in your life.
This is an awesome plan to achieving $30k in savings in a year...and even if you only get to $27k...is that a failure?? ABSOLUTELY NOT.
Do you know what people would do to be able to have $5k in savings, let alone $27k??
Imagine how you would feel when you logged into the bank in the morning, just to do your standard “all is well” monitoring and you saw $27k in your savings account.
You would have a smile on your face. You would feel like the weight of the world had been lifted off of your shoulders. You would feel at peace with your decisions, whatever financial impact they might have, because you have that nest egg.
Really FEEL THAT FEELING.
Have I convinced you that goals and resolutions are different? Have I convinced you that goals are better?
If I have…
Hot Damn!! YAY!! SQUEEE!!!
I can support you in achieving your goals. If you're interested in joining the January Initiative, I'm taking enrollment through January 4th, comment below and we'll chat about your goals and I'll get you in!
Let’s do one more
I want to learn food science so I can make more informed decisions for myself and my family.
What about the way you and your family eat now bothers you? Do you eat out too often? What is too often? Do you eat a lot of “easy” boxed dinners?
What are the “bad foods” according to all of the valid and viable nutrition programs? (I’ll give you a shortcut because I happen to know this information...inflammatory foods are wheat, corn, soy, sugar, and alcohol...anything in a package that has more than 5 ingredients, anything that says “refined” and anything that says “diet” on the package...how do I know? References are The Fast Metabolism Diet, Natalie Jill Fitness 7 Day Jump Start, and The 131 Method)
If you’re interested in The 131 Method and want to sign up, I do have an affiliate link you can purchase through. What’s that? It means I get a small commission if you buy, but that commission is at no additional cost to you (ie. the price of the program doesn’t increase because I get a commission) 131method.com?afmc=mc
Make it a point to log everyone’s weight, measurements, sleep habits, emotional state, energy levels, etc before you start making changes (this is how you’re going to gauge how you’re doing).
Have you checked out all of the VALID diets out there? What I mean by that is...not the eat eggs for two weeks and lose 20 lbs..not the eat cabbage soup for two weeks and lose 20 lbs. Anything that says you can ONLY eat this or that, or you CAN NEVER eat this or that...those are probably no-go’s.
Head over to YouTube and check out reviews on nutrition programs you’re interested in. Head over to Pinterest and just type in whatever program sparks your interest and read some articles on it. Solicit opinions from your Facebook friends, you know everyone is always be happy to offer their opinions and experiences.
Do these things in incremental phases. Don’t do them all at once.
Set a plan to ask your friends one week, do your Pinterest research one week, do your YouTube research another week, and go to each company’s website another week..
Start cleaning out each shelf of your pantry and your freezer a little bit each week.
Start eating whole, natural foods. If it came from the air, sea or land it’s okay to eat. Incorporate one or two new natural foods a week to replace some of the crap you’re throwing out.
Start drinking more water...how much more? Well, how much do you drink now? Increase by 3 cups a day. Most people are chronically dehydrated so regularly increasing your water intake isn’t going to hurt you - just listen to your body.
Expect to be bombarded with information, but create a system (ie. get a journal/notebook) to write down what you’ve learned about everything, what you like and what you don’t like, so that you can make the right decision for you and your family.
Continue to look at information, your learning is never over, especially in the nutrition/food science space.
Check out podcasts on brain health, gut health, and topics like that. Set a goal to listen to one per week.
Set a goal to re-evaluate your weight, measurements, how everyone’s clothes fit, how everyone is sleeping, how much energy everyone has and how everyone feels in general in 8 weeks.
THIS...THIS is a plan to improve your food science knowledge and get you and your family on a healthier plan.
Do you believe me now that GOALS are the way to go instead of resolutions?
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I’m so happy you chose me today, mama. I’m happy to connect with you either in the comments below or over on the socials.
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