Have you ever been in a funk? How long did it last? What did you do to come out of it? How long is too long? How do you know if it's more than just a funk?
That's a lot of questions for something that seems to happen to most of us every now and then, isn't it?
e all go through it, we all have a week or two where something's just off and you can't really place what it is. But what if it lasts more than a week or two?
I think it's pretty safe to say that it's something more that just being in a funk.
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You could attribute it to weather, if you're one of many who is affected by the "winter blues" or extreme changes in high and low pressure days.
But what if it happens and you know for certain that weather isn't a factor?
I posted the other day on social media something, a quote from Gandhi, that said "Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony."
Do you think it's true?
Many of us, especially working moms who are trying to give 100% in every area of their lives, are not operating in harmony and we don't even realize it.
We are running on auto-pilot in order to get everyone where they need to be in the morning, in order to participate in yet another meeting that should have been an email, in order to spend quality time with our families after work.
Being in a funk now and again is expected and often acceptable. So, what happens if several tries of the old reliable techniques of getting out of your funk fail?
What happens when that mental health day doesn't provide any relief?
When, after that three day weekend, you're still struggling to be excited about work or really about anything going on in your life?
What happens when you are doing everything right, you're eating right, exercising regularly, taking time for yourself, making time for your family, performing at work, but you still have the thought of, "I don't belong here," or, "I don't want to do this anymore," or, "This isn't what I want to do for the next five, ten, or more years."
Before you say, "go to the doctor," can you do me a favor? Actually, it's not really for me, it's for you.
Can you do one thing for yourself before making that call?
Get out a piece of paper and your favorite pen or pencil or marker.
Take five minutes, or longer if you need, and write three things, leaving some space between them for your comments.
What do I think? What do I say? What do I do?
You're probably wondering what these questions refer to; they refer to anything you want.
Work specific? What direction do you think your career should be heading? What direction do you tell people (and yourself) that your career is heading? We you conducting yourself in your career in a way that matches what you think and what you say?
Is it family specific?
Or health/wellness specific?
Maybe the questions need to be all encompassing. These questions need to be about what you feel they need to address.
But you can't answer these questions and just be done; look at your answers.
Find where the inconsistency is
In order to really figure out if this funk you're in is really just temporary or if you need to make a significant change in your life, you need to evaluate yourself and what you're doing.
Because if any one of those things is just a little bit off, that can throw off your entire life, and that's no exaggeration.
If just one of those things is off, you may become angry, permanently irritated, unpleasant to be around (for others and for yourself), and then you risk going down a very dark rabbit hole.
So, next time you're in a funk for more than a couple days, I want you to try this.
I want you to write it out.
Writing things out has so much more meaning and carries so much more weight in our heads and our hearts than just thinking about it or putting it in our phones.
Write it out and see if you can't figure out how to make yourself the best version of you.
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